Understanding Human Personality.

Objection is not just a logical reaction, but also an emotional window. The way someone argues can reveal his personality more honestly than the thousand sweet words he utters. In a communications research from the University of California, it found that people's patterns of denial are rather straightforward to how they process threats to their ego. Meaning, refusal is a form of psychological reflex: partly born out of wanting to be right, the other part from the desire to be understood. In work or everyday conversation, we often encounter two types of naysayers. There are those who immediately attack other people's ideas with a high note, and there are those who wait for a moment then insert a fine sentence that sounds diplomatic but sharp. Both can't be judged only by the content of the speech, but by the motive behind the reaction. Reading personality through people's denial is an important social skill, because from there you know how to interact without causing unnecessary friction. 

1. Reflesion shows ego sensitivity People who directly object without thinking tend to have a fragile ego. Reflexes denial indicates a fear of being looked wrong or losing in the conversation. In social psychology, this is called defensive reasoning, in which a person focuses more on defending oneself rather than understanding the content of a conversation. For example, when you give feedback to a colleague about the presentation, he immediately replies, "I know why, but the client is difficult. ”The reaction is not a sign of confidence, but a protection against shame. People like this are easier to talk to if you start with a slight validation, like "I know you've made a lot of effort, can I give you a small look? "The tone lowers the defensive and opens up the logic room. 

2. Logical objection shows stability of thought. Those who are able to argue with a neat argument structure tend to have high self-control. The objection is not to attack, but to assert the point of view. This guy usually thinks he's two steps ahead, weighing the context before answering. For example, when someone says, "You're wrong," then he replies, "Maybe it's true from that side, but looking at the last data the result is different. "It demonstrates the ability to think systematically and openness to other perspectives. When you come across this type, use an evidence-based style of discussion, rather than opinion, to make the exchange of ideas healthy and productive. 

3. Aggressive passive objection is a sign of social anxiety This type looks calm but dangerous. They are not protesting directly, but with sarcasm or subtle, hurtful comments. Psychology calls this a form of avoidant confrontation — a strategy of people who are afraid of conflict, but want to still feel right. For instance, when you say, "It looks like this task could be done quicker," he replies, "Yes, if everyone on your team was as efficient as you." ” On the surface you can hear praising, but the contents of sarcasm. The best way to deal with this type is to withhold emotional reactions and reverse them with clarity, such as "I didn't mean to compare, but to look for a more effective way. " You remain calm, but the direction of conversation goes back to substance. 

4. Humor-based objections indicate high social intelligence Someone is protesting with a joke. At a glance it looks relaxed, but inside it there is a sharp logic. Humor in refusal demonstrates the ability to suppress tension while maintaining position. People with this style are usually smart in reading the atmosphere and knowing when to be serious. For example, in a light debate, when criticized, he replied, "Agree, but if your logic is used continuously, the world will be too perfect for humans. " Funny but meaningful anyway. In dealing with these types, use light but heavy language. Don't be too stiff, because they value liquid conversation but remain content. 

5. A quiet refusal shows emotional maturity A person whose resistance is slow but clear usually has mastered himself. They don't need volume to assert truth. In communication psychology research, people with this style are said to have high emotional granularity, the ability to recognize and regulate emotions with precision. For example, in a heated discussion, when someone else raises the tone, he simply says, “We may have a different definition of this issue. " A simple sentence but full of control. Dealing with these types, use a rational and appreciative approach, as they value conversations that focus on content, rather than ego. 

6. Flowing resistance shows reflective ability This type doesn't protest directly, but digest first, then respond with a new perspective. They show that a discussion is a thought process, not an argument. Such people are usually open to correction, because their orientation is not really wrong, but understanding.